Letting go of judgment

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One thing that kills collaboration and building healthy relationships, is judgement. To value others properly I find it’s best to abstain from too many judgments. All judgements are evaluations (whether self judgement or judgment of others) and end up separating you from seeing others as human beings like yourself.   In the moment we begin to believe “hey!  I’m pretty amazing and wayyy better …

Measure yourself by your effort not by others

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On one project, one of my teammates made me feel horrible about how I was contributing.  This made me doubt myself and I spent time figuring out why I lost so much self confidence.  I took Kain Ramsey’s program, called Warrior Mindset, which I highly recommend. From that program I learned why I felt so terrible.  I had a need to …

Be kind to yourself when making mistakes

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Ever watch tennis players who make a bad shot, yell at themselves?  This is sadly how we sometimes treat ourselves we goof up at work or make a mistake. Some people’s projects and work must be perfect or they fear judgement from others.  For some, the fear of failing leads to serious control issues.  If they are not succeeding at a …

Admit when you don’t know

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Trying so hard to be perfect is exhausting.  A simple technique to cultivate humility is to admit that you don’t know, when you don’t know.  This also called being authentic. To build authenticity muscles, we must call ourselves out.  We must acknowledge when we’re puffing our chest and recognize we’re not fooling anyone. When our need to be real outweighs …

Learning to Value Yourself

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A big part of being humble has to do with valuing yourself appropriately. If you overvalue yourself your ego will increase – which will create an illusion that the world revolves around you (and when it doesn’t – it’ll be a real problem). If you undervalue yourself, you will constantly doubt yourself and this will hurt your ability to achieve …

Ways to Cultivate Humility

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People are amazing BS detectors.  Within a few seconds people can tell who is truly humble, who is faking it, and who is quite frankly, arrogant.  And like I mentioned, whoever is seen as arrogant, puts collaboration in jeopardy. Thus, it’s important as designers to be aware of behaviors and attitudes that don’t demonstrate and cultivate humility. No one is …

Paradox of Jerks

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The feeling of “trying hard” and not accepting yourself fully, is a common experience for many people.  Thankfully, I have found for myself, that these insecure feelings typically go away over time.  Once you settle in a healthy (key word: healthy) organization (you get to know people and they get to know you), you begin to relax and feel secure in …

What is Humility

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“True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.” – CS Lewis Humility is a modest view of one’s importance.  Humble designers realize they are no more important than others – putting their pants on one leg at a time too.  They also realize that they are no less important than others either. Understanding this balance between valuing yourself and valuing …

Introducing Humility

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No one likes to work with someone else who thinks they are smarter or better than everyone else (even if it’s true!).  While “genius design” sounds cool (think, Steve Jobs) it can lead to one person (or group of people) demoralizing, devaluing, and demeaning others (think, Steve Jobs) all for their own goals or benefit. Designers who believe they are …

How to Give Design Feedback

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There used to be an old joke in the design community: “you can always tell a junior designer from a more senior one.  When giving feedback, a junior designer nods, smiles,  thanks you…and then proceeds to the bathroom to go cry.” Receiving feedback is a core part of being a designer and you develop “tough skin” over time.  But giving …