Lesson Intention: To Help You Realize that you MUST stop imitating others. Start trusting and believing that YOU are unique and special enough — and following what you love to do, is better than following another person’s path.
One of the principles I keep reliving and encountering in myself is the idea of DOING WHAT INSPIRES YOU. A lot of times I forget that. In the race to get ahead, I sometimes put working ahead of living. Living involves being alive, having fun, enjoying yourself. Working is…well, sometimes the opposite.
Success is in the future…not here…so they say
A lot of times, when we talk about success – it is in the future. It is not here. So we have to hustle – the self help ‘gurus’, your mentors, and even people who have found success tell us “you must work hard!”. So we chase the carrot. I think really they believe that discipline and focus is missing in many people — so they go on telling us how we SHOULD work even harder.
However, I always get stuck in thinking I “SHOULD” be doing something. I SHOULD be posting or writing more – I SHOULD be taking those classes. Of course, for someone who likes to think he is productive (and a worthwhile person in society), I am always trying to figure out how to get ahead. Who isn’t?
“Trying” to succeed leads to Dissatisfaction
This is why so many people don’t have the time anymore. They don’t have time to see you, to exercise, to catch up on the news — or really even breathe. The race to get ahead can be so subtle, yet leads to dissatisfaction. Trying to succeed, resisting this moment and what you really enjoy doing — is not sustainable.
“Don’t Seek Happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness” – Eckhard Tolle
What’s wrong with here and now? There is none. The here and now is all there is. This is what REAL gurus have been teaching.
My new principle I am trying to live by is this: Do what inspires ME. NOT others. This may seem selfish – but it’s not. It’s the best form of self-love. Why should I go out and imitate Donald Trump or whoever? They found their own way by just BEING THEMSELVES.
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland
No one told Steve Jobs to step it up — and if they did, he didn’t struggle with getting ahead. He followed his passions and got support when he was stuck. He learned from others — but he didn’t imitate others, he just was himself to the fullest.
Work = Play
“You must work hard” is what is told by many successful people — but they don’t tell you that they had FUN working hard. Because it wasn’t work at all for them! They did what inspired them to the FULLEST. Their success was an expression of themselves and their vision. That’s where the fuel came from. Not some REACTION to fear of mediocrity.
“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both.”
— James Michener
Follow your Inner Inspiration
Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. – Bruce Lee
It is important for us to work on achieving our dreams. We shouldn’t just say, “hey, im just going to be myself!” and then proceed to status quo. No. That’s not taking responsibility or owning your own potential and power.
REACTING against mediocrity causes us to scramble and think we are not enough and are not where we should be. Instead, we should RESPOND to mediocrity – by being ALIVE. By being energetic and excited about what we do, and putting our efforts where our heart is. Not where a successful person says we should put it.
Otherwise, we are just robots reacting to what we SHOULD be doing, so that we earn someone else’s definition of success. Learn from others – but don’t imitate them. Create your own path.