Feeling not “good enough”, we aim to fill our lives with some purpose. We want to be a “somebody” and keep striving and striving, yet are unfulfilled.
- “I need to be doing _________”
- “I should be there, I am here.”
- “What is my purpose? Am I in the right career? What should I be doing?”
Often, I’ve gotten stuck thinking “what should I do with my life?”. And I don’t get a clear answer. And the reason is: I am no longer the ambitious striving young person anymore that “needs” to be something other than what he is.
I used to watch Brian Tracy or other personal development gurus who would advise that you must have ambition! Be excellent at what you do. But this creates internal strain. Why? Because you are back to ZERO, working upward and asking “how can I be successful?” and “am I good enough?”
This mindset ultimately keeps you stuck. Yes, you’ll go out and gain worldly achievements, “do things”, and earn some success but it will be agenda-based, short lived, and hollow. Ultimately, you are only fulfilling yourself and that’s not a real purpose and won’t be satisfying.
Chasing a bigger, better version of you will always make you miserable. Balance’s ambition and service is key.
Selflessness, ease, calmness, acceptance, dedication
How Can You Serve?
Ask yourself: who am I serving RIGHT NOW? This is a good place to start – since you are not resisting this moment.
Oftentimes, we overlook what we can do now (our Circle of Influence). Work towards a better future by working on what you have today.
Some of my personal reflections of who I am serving. I’ve noticed none of these cause me strain — I am not AMBITIOUSLY active in each. I am not effortful in my contribution – meaning it’s a good sign it’s not about me.
- I am serving others on this website through genuine open sharing of my life lessons.
- I am serving others at work through my proactivity, dedication and commitment to excellence.
- I am serving through being a good helpful son, husband, and brother.
“Dedication : The human tendency is to think of ‘me’ first and then of others, but, if we turn it the other way around, ‘you’ first and ‘me’ next, only then can we be happy always. That is tyaga or dedication. For such a person, there is eternal peace, nothing can disturb him or her-because we all want peace. The ultimate goal is peace or happiness. It is in our hands.”
“There’s no one with intelligence in this town except that man over there playing with the children, the one riding the stick horse. He has keen, fiery insight and vast dignity like the night sky, but he conceals it in the madness of child’s play.”