Trying so hard to be perfect is exhausting. A simple technique to cultivate humility is to admit that you don’t know, when you don’t know. This also called being authentic.
To build authenticity muscles, we must call ourselves out. We must acknowledge when we’re puffing our chest and recognize we’re not fooling anyone.
When our need to be real outweighs are need to “appear cool” – you know you’ve made progress here.
Author’s story: On one project, my team lead was really good at admitting he didn’t know. What I found was, he was really good at doing that AND coming from a place of honesty and power. He would say (paraphrasing), “I’m not 100% sure how we’re going to approach this next part, but let me talk to so-and-so who’s really good at this and maybe might give us some ideas.” Along with his genuine personality, I felt like the team appreciated him even more when he could be vulnerable like this rather than claiming he knew all the answers.